Guidance tools are used when the misbehavior cannot be prevented. They
are responses parents make to children while the problem is occurring.
Guidance tools help children learn responsibility while protecting and
strengthening their self-worth.
Guidance as the Primary Focus
In each of the three tool sets (Prevention, Guidance, Consequences),
tools are organized into three levels of difficulty and challenge:
Note the color symbol associate with each level. This division represents
how difficult it might be, in general, to actually use the tool effectively.
Of course, a lot depends on the child and the experience of the parent.
Ages given for each tool are approximations only. Study the basic tools
first. As you become more comfortable with these tools, return to these
pages and focus on those at an intermediate level, and finally, advanced.
Do not try to learn all of these tools at one time.
Clicking on the tool will take you to a description of that tool and
at least one example of its use.
limits (3-18 years)
a reminder of the rule (all ages)
for the rule to be restated (3-18 years)
for consequences (4-18 years)
for solutions (4-18 years)
humor (all ages)
a polite request (all ages)
positive thinking (3-18 years)
a hearing (all ages)
feelings and thoughts (all ages)
for help to understand (4-18 years)
thinking (3-18 years)
with frustrating tasks (all ages)
Confront the situation...
substitutes (2-16 years)
child from situations he or she cannot handle (2-16 years)
Say NO! (all
irrelevant behavior (all ages)
restrain the child (2-16 years)
child repeat the action (4-18 years)
permission (all ages)
Focus on yourself...
your resources (all ages)
relaxed (all ages)
professional help (all ages)