Skill 17-1
Respect as strength
Your recognition and respect for the others' feelings is not an admission of our weakness. It is not a concession to the other. We do this for ourselves. It is a form of great strength to be inside the storm yet remain in control of the helm.

There is a moment when we are angry and our mind in a tailspin that we find the strength to step back, set aside our own emotion, and to look at the world through the other human being's eyes. When we do, we can realize that this other person is acting rationally from his or her own perspective. Even if the truth is that their view is wildly irrational, they believe at that moment in another "truth," one that makes sense to them.

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