Skill 17
Recognize and respect others’ feelings at outset: Step outside of my anger
All of these skills can be difficult to put into practice. First and foremost, you have to view the other person, child or adult, as a partner, not opponents, in the interaction. I know this is tough. You are, after all, angry. No problem can be solved in an encounter dominated by antagonism.

The other person may not actually be rational. The other person may have done something wrong. Countering with mental (or physical) force will not do you or the other any enduring good. It may provide a temporary solution. But your weakness has been exposed, your anger not truly resolved. Every person, no matter how nasty, can be our teacher. Anger is better used as fuel, not a corruption of the mind.

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