Choosing a course of action flows from recognition, evaluation, and assessment. All the FireWorks skills can be used with both adults and children. Some of these action skills focus primarily on self-care. The other person may or may not feel angry.

For the most part, the courses of action in the first core set of Choose that we will examine now are low risk because they emphasize self-mastery and focus on what you can do primarily for yourself. In the second set of seven skills that follow we will focus on circumstances where all those involved are feeling angry.

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