What to say and not to say: How to help a victim/survivor of sexual abuse
By Keener A. Tippin II
When trying to support a sexual abuse survivor, try not to be judgmental or take control. (Even when we know a lot about sexual abuse, we bring our own values and prejudices to all situations.) A sympathetic ear can go a long way toward aiding their recovery process.
The most important things you can communicate are:
glad you're alive."
Please also keep in mind the following guidelines:
* Be a good
* Give advice
or make decisions for the survivor. (Remember that it is important for
the survivor to make his/her own decisions as a step toward regaining
control and overcoming feelings of helplessness.)
Kansas State University offers assistance to any member of the university community following a sexual assault. Assistance is available through the Women's Center, 206 Holton Hall. After hours and on the weekend, the K-State police will put the individual in touch with the staff member on-call with no questions asked. Center staff will help the individual explore available options while respecting the individual's needs and rights. Assistance by the center's staff is available in reporting the assault to the appropriate law enforcement agencies.
A range of confidential assistance by both campus offices and off-campus agencies is available to any member of the university community who is a victim of sexual assault. The K-State Women's Center and The Crisis Center Inc., of Manhattan, provide crisis intervention, victim support and advocacy. University Counseling Services and other community resources such as Pawnee Mental Health Services provide counseling and information and/or referral. Medical assistance is available at both the Lafene Student Health Center and Mercy Health Center of Manhattan.
Adapted from a publication prepared by U-M Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center