Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part IV

How to recognize unhealthy relationships and get out
By Karin S. Ryan, Psy.D. & Heather B. Trangsrud, Ph.D.

Why it's Hard to Leave...

  • Abuse may slowly escalate so may not recognize it as abuse at first.
  • Intimidation or threats (e.g., will hurt family).
  • Lack of social support.
  • Lack of finances or employment.
  • Lack of housing.
  • Guilt and shame.
  • Mistrust of system.
  • Fear.
  • Stalking or increased abuse.

Preparing to Leave...

Get professional support.

  • Counseling and Psychological Services
  • Women's Center
  • SafeZone ally

Get support from trusted co-workers, family, or friends.

Develop a safety plan.

Document the abuse

  • Copies of abusive emails/texts
  • Save harassing voicemails
  • Take pictures of bruises/marks
  • Written statements from witnesses
  • Report abuse to the police and press charges

How to Get Out

Go to a shelter or emergency room.

  • Manhattan Emergency Shelter – 537-3113
  • Women's Crisis Shelter – 539-2785

KS Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence

Crisis Center, Inc.

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