Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part IV
How to recognize unhealthy relationships and get out
By Karin S. Ryan, Psy.D. & Heather B. Trangsrud, Ph.D.
Why it's Hard to Leave...
- Abuse may slowly escalate so may not recognize it as abuse at first.
- Intimidation or threats (e.g., will hurt family).
- Lack of social support.
- Lack of finances or employment.
- Lack of housing.
- Guilt and shame.
- Mistrust of system.
- Stalking or increased abuse.
Preparing to Leave...
Get professional support.
- Counseling Services
- Women's Center
- SafeZone ally
Get support from trusted co-workers, family, or friends.
Develop a safety plan.
Document the abuse
- Copies of abusive emails/texts
- Save harassing voicemails
- Take pictures of bruises/marks
- Written statements from witnesses
- Report abuse to the police and press charges
How to Get Out
Go to a shelter or emergency room.
- Manhattan Emergency Shelter – 537-3113
- Women's Crisis Shelter – 539-2785
KS Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence
Crisis Center, Inc.
- Manhattan – 539-2785
- Junction City – 762-8835
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