#3 Demonstrate the desirable behavior yourself
Basic, ages 2-18
Show children what to do if they are unfamiliar with the behavior. Make the demonstration as simple as possible. This tool is more limited if the behavior the parent wants to teach cannot be demonstrated easily.

When he becomes frustrated and angry, a father talks about his feelings without putting his children down. When his 4-year-old breaks his stereo he said, Jamie, you broke my stereo. I feel very sad. Angry, too, because I know you know you are not supposed to touch it. He wants to show his children how to express their own anger nonviolently.

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