#2 Allow minor “misbehavior”
Intermediate, ages 2-18
Do not respond to misbehavior if you have a more important goal you want to accomplish. Avoid responding in such a way as to imply approval. Continue to watch the problem in case it becomes extreme or distressing to others. Confront the misbehavior when the competing goal becomes less critical. Psychologist Fritz Redl calls this strategic noninterference.

A brother (6 years) and a sister (5 years) have argued a lot recently. One evening their mother hears them laughing and jumping slightly on their beds. The children know they are not supposed to do that. Mother chooses not to respond immediately. Letting them enjoy each other's company is more important at this moment.

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