Skill 25
⚡ Reach out for informal support
A second anger management skill involves connecting by phone or by person with someone you trust to discuss the observations you made during the cool down check.
These resource people should be "straight" thinkers and caring, honest communicators. By "straight" thinker, I mean someone who can connect pieces of information and think through a problem with you. They should not add to your confusion or add to any irrational thinking.
They should be a caring listeners, someone interested in your story, not taking the focus away from you so they can talk about their own problems. They should also be willing to give their honest opinions about what they hear.
These individuals are precious. If they are good listeners, take what they say seriously. Of course you may disagree. That's ok. But listen as much as possible with a cool mind.
Also, be sure to support them when they need to talk. Give them something back. Be very careful about exhausting these sources of support. Try to find more than one person you can talk to.