❖ Anger varies in intensity
In addition to disguising other emotions, anger can exist along a range from:frustration to irritation, then to anger and to rage.
The degree of the intensity of anger depends on the amount of threat we perceive.
Notice I used the word perceive. If you think something is very threatening, even when it isn't, then your anger will become more intense.
#5. The anger intensity scale. In your journal, draw a horizontal line. At one end, put very mild irritation, at the other, extreme rage. Write in various situations that would trigger anger at different points on this continuum. So for example, where would you put:Hitting your own finger while hammering a nail to a wall
Your child swears at you
Your child puts a big scratch on your car
Your child hits another child
Other people are likely to arrange these and other circumstances differently on their scale.
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