In the previous lessons, we talked with children about
emotional arousal and emotional highjacking. Now begin encouraging
them to put that knowledge to work in their lives.
Emphasize a simple SaT practice. SaT means "Stop and Think."
Stop immediate action and let the emotions cool as one Thinks.
What thought? Now we can introduce the REACH concept.
A student, for example, knows he has to give a speech in the class.
In a few minutes before his talk, he first stops and thinks. Instead
of paying attention to his rising fear, he begins to focus on what
is going on in his mind. He quickly...
the emotion he is feeling ("I'm afraid. My knees feel weak.").
the situation in terms of the emotion ("I might look foolish
in my talk; they might laugh at me.").
his position ("I'm prepared as best I can; I can do this; if
I make a mistake, I'm only human.").
a course of action ("Ok, let's go. Time to give the speech.").
himself afterward ("Whew, hey that was a brave thing I did.
I can do better next time.").
In difficult circumstances, the first
four steps of REACH can occur lightning fast, so fast that a person
is not even aware of thinking. Examine the case studies your group
selected in earlier lessons. How did these individuals show "thinking