ripples across a forest pond, the white foam of ocean surf,
the quiet darkness of the deep... such is the stuff of Water.
Water seeps, trickles, flows, always accommodating, penetrating.
Water represents the mysterious, the profound, a persistent
impact, and patience. Water is the supreme adapter. Water
can carve deep canyons through solid stone. Water always
strives to be calm, to seek out a balanced state, to find
a point of harmony in response to the demands of gravity.
Water in its purest state is clear on the surface, growing
darker as it descends from the light. Water is necessary
for our survival. In fact we are composed primarily of water.
Water moderates and is moderated by its opposite--Fire. Water
without heat, without fire, is destined to end in ice; too
much heat, and it dissipates as steam. Yet, water can moderate
fire as well. Cold water tempers and strengthens burning
metal. Water is strengthened by its complement--the Sky. The
sky lifts water from the ground and distributes it where
it can return to earth in the form of rain. Then there is
the Moon, a creature of the Sky, with its mysterious
and powerful effects on water's tides. The hope and freedom
of the sky nurtures the tranquility and enduring features
parent-child relationships, Water represents such
qualities as patience, acceptance, and endurance. Like fire,
we are eager to propel our children successfully through
childhood. Yet we also need to step back and be patient,
to adapt to their needs. One of the greatest struggles all
committed parents face is coming to terms with what life
has handed them in the shape of the children before them.
There are some things about a child a parent cannot change.
Our choice is to be like water--to adapt, to accept, flow
around, settle with what stands before us. With fire, we
may have to confront something in a child that can be changed.
With water, we accept and endure what we must.
need water too. Some children are very harsh on themselves,
unaccepting and demanding. Though difficult, we have to teach
these children the quality of water, the stillness in the
face of tension, the adaptation to circumstances, the acceptance
of what has to be endured.
Of course, water has its limitations and its risks as well.
We'll take a look at the dark side of water on page twol .