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We can also set limits that protect property. Insisting that our adolescents return tools to their proper location or showing our preschooler how to properly use the television are examples of limits that protect and show respect for property.
Some limits protect children and others from psychological harm. For example, we can expect our children to express anger without swearing. Or we might expect our children to resolve conflicts without hurting or teasing.
Limits that emphasize respect for others can be important. For example, we could tell our children to play downstairs after dinner, so we can have a few moments alone to talk with our partners. A young adolescent may expect his parents to knock before entering his room. Respecting these limits shows consideration for others.
So before drawing that line in the sand, ask yourself if the expectation is important.
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