1. Set a goal
Identify the behavior you want to see in your child as an outcome of your efforts. How important is the goal and is it consistent with your core purpose?

In the example you in the journal entry “Putting a strategy into action” you might want to stop the fighting, calm both children, and get your son to listen. You might also want your son to realize he has hurt his friend. As part of your core purpose, you may want to teach your son how to resolve conflict nonviolently.

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