Core idea 6
It’s all about the baby, not you
Before the first child you may have felt that you were the special person in your partner’s life. Perhaps you were. With the birth of your first child that world will change dramatically. It’s not about you any more. In the eyes of your partner your baby becomes the person on her throne. Your partner has carried this baby insider of her. The connection is biological and psychological. This focus is nature’s way of ensuring the baby’s survival.
A mature and confident father welcomes the mother’s investment and joins with her in making the commitment of care. He understands the powerful drive of biology in the relationship between mother and baby. So he moves over to make space for the baby in her life. But in that space he brings his baby. There is more to gain than to lose.