Core idea 16
Accept the back seat
Before a baby arrives, we are accustomed to having the attention of our partner. She shows us that we have an important place in her life by making us that special dinner, going to movies that you like but she doesn’t, or going for long walks where we can have our special talks. We also enjoy doing the things for her that shows that she has a special place in our lives. Having a baby changes everything.
The baby is in the front seat, and we have to move to the back. That does not mean that we are less important. Any person only has so much time and energy to invest in others. Our partner does not have time to show us how much she loves us in the ways we treasure. Nor does she have time to accept what we are accustomed to giving her.
This does not last forever. Babies grow up. As they do, a couple will find more time for each other. When they do, they can make room for everyone in the front seat.