Helpless and hopeless
At the Threshold, we might see Friends who feel and act both helpless and hopeless. Friends with resilient personalities may move quickly through this Stabilize phase and move quickly to Mobilize. Others may need more support and time. Feeling helpless and hopeless is understandable because the shock of misfortune can numb thinking and cause confusion.
As the African American Kansas poet Langston Hughes wrote, Hold fast your dreams. When dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly. When dreams go, life is a barren field, frozen with snow.