The cyclical nature of grief
Sometimes the healing is cyclical. Friends might reach Transformation, only to experience the turmoil of powerful feelings once again. We cannot continue to nurture progress until we return once again to the Threshold. The rocking motion of grief has its own momentum. As we care, the desperate energy of this rocking motion declines, and the momentum of grief begins to slow.

Depending on circumstance and our relationship with a Friend, we may have to depart before reaching the final gateway of Transformation. We do what we can with every moment we have with them and hope their journey continues. Instead of trying to accelerate their progress artificially, we should respect Friends for where they are in the swing and measure our success by what we achieved in the time we had with them.

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The Power of the Moment