Consent Issues

Women live with the knowledge that they are at risk to be raped.1 out of 4 of college women will have suffered a rape or attempted rape between age 13 and graduation from college. Unlike men, women must take into account what the risk factors are in every activity they plan. Women are often scolded & admonished to take precautions in their day-to-day lives. “Shut and lock your windows on a breezy Saturday night…

”This is not FAIR. This is not RIGHT. But it is TRUE. There are rape trials going on right now and in the near future.

  • If you have information about date rape drugs
  • If you have been assaulted in the past
  • If you know of a person who is a rapist

Come forward now and help everyone by telling your story.

  • KSU Center for Advocacy, Response, and Education - (532-6444)
  • K-State Police - (532-6412)
  • County Attorney's Office - (537-6390)
  • Riley County Police - (537-0700)

Lower the Risk of Rape

A woman maybe raped by a stranger or an acquaintance

Acquaintance

9 out of 10 rapes are committed by someone known by the victim.

  • Know your sexual intentions and limits. You have the RIGHT to say no to any unwanted sexual activity, at any point.
  • Communicate your limits firmly and directly. Don’t remain quiet because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
  • Don’t be afraid to make waves if you feel threatened. Loudly protest, leave and go for help. Don’t wait to be rescued.
  • Some men think drinking, dressing provocatively, or going to their room indicates willingness for sex. Be prepared to express your limitations.
  • Drink in moderation. If you become intoxicated, you may lose the ability to make wise decisions and/or communicate your feelings appropriately. Some men use alcohol to inTOXICate women. Be careful!
  • If you are going to a party, don’t go alone. Go with a friend. Agree to look out for each other and leave together.  If dating a new person, go on a double date, go to a public place and/or make sure you have your own transportation. Avoid secluded places.
  • Avoid falling for lines. Intimacy can always be stopped without any physical or emotional damage to either party.
  • TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. If you feel uncomfortable or think you may be at risk, get out of the situation as soon as possible.
  • Avoid men who show no respect for women. If a man does not respect women as a group, he may not respect or hear your wishes regarding sex.
  • Date-rape drugs are here in Manhattan. Do not drink anything that you are not ABSOLUTELY SURE has not been dosed. View more date-rape drug info.

Don’t be afraid to set limits that are right for you!

Strangers

Be Safe: You know the Drill.

1. Keep your doors and windows locked.
2. Don't forget balconies. We know that rapists will come in second or third floor balcony windows.
3. Rapists may enter the home during the day and hide. Keep doors locked during the day. Communicate with roommates about using locks.
4. Have plenty of outside lighting. Leave lights on while you are gone.
5. Be aware! Keep your car locked. Criminals are known to hide in the back seat.
6. Get to know your neighbors. Watch out for one another!
7. Trim shrubs and plants close to doors and windows.
8. Have keys ready to use when entering apartment/car.
9. List only last name and initials in phone books and on mailboxes.
10. NEVER admit a stranger, even if you think he looks "safe." Get a peephole, and offer to call 911 if someone needs assistance.
11. Request "panic buttons" to be installed by your landlord.
12. Arrange to ride with someone you know well when leaving a party. DO NOT ASSUME you are safe.
13. If you have car trouble, raise the hood, lock yourself in, and wait for police. If a man stops and offers to help, do not unlock the doors; ask him to call for assistance for you.
14. Do not stop to help stranded motorists: this is a standard scheme used by assailants.
15. Park in well lit areas. Walk with someone to your car.
16. When giving your keys to parking lot attendants, repair shops, etc. only give your ignition keys. Never give your apartment key out.
17. MAKE NOISE. Carry a whistle or noisemaker.
18. If you make the decision to carry a weapon such as pepper spray, hair spray, umbrella, etc.--carry it in your hand ready to use it. Weapons are often taken away and used against the victim.

Don't learn to be afraid--Learn to be observant, trust your senses and intuition. Remember, it OK in some situations to be rude! If you suspect you are in a dangerous situation, FLEE. Make NOISE.

Consent and Legal Issues