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It's On Us

Center for Advocacy, Response and Education
Kansas State University
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1101 Mid-Campus Drive North
Manhattan, KS 66506 


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How to intervene

All of us have a part to play in preventing sexual violence.

Five Steps of Bystander Intervention

  1. Notice the event
  2. Consider whether the situation demands your action
  3. Decide you have a responsibility to act
  4. Choose what form of assistance to use
  5. Understand how to implement the choice safely

How Can I help?

It doesn’t take superhuman powers to stop sexual violence; it requires ordinary citizens stepping up and stepping in when they see something. Be a part of the solution, not part of the problem.

Here are a few ideas of how to actively combat sexual violence:

  • Talk to your friends honestly and openly about sexual assault.
  • Don’t just be a bystander—if you see something, intervene in any way you can.
  • Trust your gut. If something looks like it might be a bad situation, it probably is.
  • Be direct. Ask someone who looks like they may need help if they’re ok.
  • Get someone to help if you see something—enlist a friend, RA, bartender, or host to help step in.
  • Keep an eye on someone who has had too much to drink.
  • If you see someone who is too intoxicated to consent, enlist their friends to help them leave safely.
  • Recognize the potential danger of someone who talks about planning to target another person at the party.
  • Be aware if someone is deliberately trying to intoxicate, isolate, or corner someone else.
  • Get in the way by creating a distraction, drawing attention to the situation, or separating them.
  • Understand that if someone does not or cannot consent to sex, it’s rape.
  • Never blame the victim.